Okcupid what does curvy mean

So, the majority of men prefer a blue eyed, dark haired woman who is a size , who knew? When a tall guy sees a petite woman, his instincts kick in to protect her. In his eyes she is more feminine, and he will feel stronger and more appreciated for taking care of her. From personal experience, small girls are fierce. Curvy usually means hourglass and thick , to me at least, means wide hips and a nice rump.

Thick is usually still ok. Plenty of Fish or POF is a completely free online dating site where a user can chat and flirt all day without spending a single dollar. It seems clear that Eharmony is the dating site with the highest success rate, and in part that is probably because its marketing and its high price point mean that only very serious daters sign up. Plenty of men are totally fine with a big girl , and enjoy a thick, curvy, soft, or even objectively fat partner.

Over the course of my life as a big girl I have wished I had a lot more of many, many things. Others, like my husband, are attracted to women of many sizes. Nearly half of the male respondents 46 percent voted for the face as the most attractive feature of a female. Selecting my body type shouldn't have been nearly as complicated as all that, but a warped body image can turn even the simplest task into a massive existential undertaking.

The root of my anxiety was fairly standard : An obese childhood followed by a thin adulthood tainted with the struggle to always lose those last 10 pounds — all while surrounded by naturally athletic boys as a kid and impossibly fit gay-bots as a man. But while my own insecurities and neuroses were to blame for much of the unnecessary mental anguish that went into identifying my body type, the chronically body-obsessed environment of dating and hookup apps didn't help matters.

The novel describes its protagonist, Fred Lemish, as having "built up his body into a fatless state of being in Great Shape," yet consistently failing in his "desperate search for permanence, commitment and love. One need only tap around on the gay hookup app Grindr to see this script played out today, nearly 40 years later. Indeed, while Grindr may be known as a sex-crazed meat market for the dick -obsessed, my past experience on the app has largely mimicked Peitzman's, finding that the ultimate deal breaker is simply a soft body.

Such would always be my cue to ghost out, sure in my belief that a mirror selfie of my belly would only be a disappointment. The one time I actually did muster up the courage to go out with a guy who correctly labeled himself as "Jacked" on OkCupid, my worst fears were confirmed at the end of the night when he straight-up called me fat — after we had already slept together.

OKC gives more choices: skinny, thin, fit, athletic, jacked, as well as average and all the synonyms for big. On both sites I think the biggest trap will always be athletic as its just so subjective.

I have also found, after doing some recent searching on OKCipid, that they wisely de-emphasize the priority of the body type. OKCupid buries it lower, and I find I hardly ever look at it.

I dont mind overweight, but I want curvy! Average in this country is kind of overweight…. Why does it have to be more complicated than Fat, Normal, Skinny? You know Match is doing it wrong if the most desirable female body type has to be classified as average.

The options on Match punish the foxes and benefit the truly average just by sharing the category with the foxes. I love it! Body types vary too much to ever classify, and most pick what they want to see as their body type, or have a broad interpretation.

So, the solution? Think of it, certified pictures…. Sure, you date ten Slenders, you might get a skeleton but eight out of ten times you get a body type that is… Slender. Athletic and Toned is tricky because, as Max discovered, anyone can run a marathon. Ladies — the key word is Toned.

We are mostly liars. Most of us are A Few Extra Pounds. But most say About Average and hope for the best. This hurts us in the long run because it encourages lying in women, too.

Curvy will definitely fool you. I have NO problem with showing my body off to anyone that thinks otherwise. The down side is finding women that can keep up with me. I feel like athletic guys make too many women feel self conscious about themselves. They are a better match based on the type of lifestyles they lead. Your being insensitive. I realize there are smart, funny and handsome men out there of ALL sizes and shapes. Give some women some credit on not being so narrow minded.

So true. If you re-read your own post you will hear a very judgmental tone that most of us even the athletic types would rather avoid. The bottom line is that both men AND women can be very superficial, though several studies have shown men to have higher expectations relative to their own appearance. Some women though not all will discard you due to your height.

They are not any more shallow than you are being. You know, it works both ways. I tend to like the larger ladies, but they spend so much time hiding it and miscategorizing themselves, they miss out on the men who would appreciate them. A few years ago I worked as a bike messenger during the summers and would often lose a lot of weight. I never became super thin or jacked but you could tell I was active. I had my upper 4 abs showing clearly but still had a small beer gut completely hiding the bottom 2.

I would definetly say I was athletic, but toned? So I tend to shy away from curvy on there. They should really require you to submit a picture from head to toe.

Now though I have lost weight and workout quite a bit because I want to be healthy. I am fit, truly curvy but still overweight.

I am ok with fat. I am fully aware that head shots, where I am concerned, can be very misleading as my face is slender. I am a beautiful women; not drop-dead gorgeous but beautiful. I am honest and mature enough to ensure my profile has full body shots so as not to mislead.

I am perfectly ok with that. I feel if you are online to meet a partner there is no place for dishonesty. If you are willing to lie or mislead your appearance what else are you hiding?

I might be more active than my skinny counterparts, but in no way shape or form do we look a like or have the same dating advantages. Where as women are the opposite. We can see this example by how long it takes a woman to dump a jerky stud bucket vs. Might I suggest semi-truck lifter as a possible addition? Thanks for being spot on! Amen girl, so very true.

Come on! Look at what your representing and have realistic expectations please. What I do have is some not a ton of leftover skin from my weight loss.

That is the conundrum of those who have turned their health lives around but still live with the scarlet letter apron? This message is to TTFK1.

Congrats on all that hard work getting the extra pounds off. I know others may disagree but the way I see it, you have a few extra pounds of loose skin on you but other than that you are firm, if i understand you right. I understand the expense of skin removal but, if i may just put a thought out there, people get loans for education to better themselves and their lives, so why not for skin removal?

And have you checked your insurance? They might pay part of it. The worse they could say is no. Hugs to you and God bless. Melanie and to women who would think some of the things you do, we all have our faults, issues and what-not. Best Wishes in your search! Ok wait…I am beautiful and I am big but not in the fetish sense. I get a lot of attention in public, yes the drooling over the boobs type but attract losers.

I post realistic shots too. Blah blah blah…long story short. Guys are being really superficial on Match. Come on now, I exclusively only use to date hot guys. But I grew up. And here at 36, I just want a regular nice guy who treats me with respect and love. Ok…and who maybe leaves a little bit of drool in the cleavage….

I also go to gym 5 times a week and I work out a sweat. I hear you sister!!! We should start our own site. Yes, I am wondering too. And then I thought, maybe I should put curvy? Average sounds like Dullsville to me. Curvy sounds prettier, sounds feminine. So guys, what should I put? So guys or women who know the answer , what do you think I should I put to show myself in the best light, but not lie?

Great post. Guys, just because you have a gym membership does not make you athletic. I go to a gym times a week. In fact, the really hot bodies are in precious short supply, truth be told.

I went out with an athletic and toned once. I could loose 1 inch on my gut, but everything else is right on. This lady could crush my skull with her legs and had ZERO fat.

Could probably bench press me too. I work with lots of guys around my age, and the reality is that guys who work in offices are usually quite paunchy by their mids. The part that I think is silly is that people like using the peer group for their own category, but not for others. Most of my peers there are athletic guys who think 28 is old, and the metabolism to drink a six pack yet still have a six pack.

If I claim to be athletic and toned, women expect me to look like these dudes. Welcome to the f-ed up world of online dating. Weight, height and a little qualifier is all you need to know to deduce, or a picture of course. Great post! Thanks for sharing this post and i have really enjoyed reading your posts about online dating….

I have been online dating for about 3 years now, and my experience has taught me that you cant ever really rely upon what they say their body type is and should instead look at the pictures carefully. I am a guy and I am honestly about 30 pounds overweight. About average usually means overweight more in the lbs range. As a result they use Slender and Athletic to describe themselves when they are quite heavyset.

As women get older the Slender and Athletic descriptions get more accurate. Guys — The biggest mistake I see on your profiles is listing a body type preference for your date at all.

Let your pics convey your size not a drop down box! No, not really. Men DO know what they like by seeing it. Why not just post an honest height and weight? I would if I were out there. Men need to see what they like, not select it from a drop down menu. My displeasure is to see so many men not list a preference at all. As someone who would categorize myself as full figured or big and beautiful.

Men are just as guilty as women in describing themselves…. If you list certain specifics, you look bad. Or, confused by their boner, they insult the more curvaceous among us. And lots of those dudes are online and take their issues to Internet dating sites. This next lady manages to avoid the kind of jerk who thinks he can give her a good old pickup artist—style neg:.

I like your profile. Really outspoken.